I Will Never Change Who I Am (2023)

FAQs

How do you accept I'll never be good enough? ›

Their choices and regrets.

You can help to make it up to them (e.g. if your partner regrets never having travelled, you can plan a trip.) But you can't change their choices or the way they feel about them. You can't free them of guilt or shame or loss. Those things are for them to explore, accept and overcome.

Your sense of self. The most important thing to never change is your sense of self. You are a whole person all on your own, and you should never change to become less than you are for anyone. You should always be your shining, crazy, weird, normal, loud, quiet, smart, silly, pretty, ugly self.

Low self-worth can stem from adverse childhood experiences, feelings of helplessness, and toxic environments. If insecurities get in the way of functioning on a personal, social, or professional level, these feelings of inferiority may run more deeply than what is generally considered normal.

Overall, the key to implementing the principle of good enough is to identify what your good enough point is, and then stop once you get there. The standard for what good enough means for you can be as low or as high as necessary; the important thing is to set this standard using a proper reasoning process.

...the three things I cannot change are the past, the truth, and you.

There are certain facts of life that we cannot change—the unavoidable “givens” of human existence: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, (4) pain is a part of life, and (5) people are not loving and loyal all the time.

Hearts and Minds. If you've ever had a debate with someone of the opposite political party or a different religion, you know just how hard people can “dig in” with their convictions. Changing hearts and minds is incredibly difficult, especially if related to deeply ingrained questions of faith or political loyalties.

Attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr, Lutheran theologian (1892–1971) God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

What in your life would you not change? ›

People can be resistant to change for a variety of reasons. Whether they are afraid of the unknown, don't want to leave their comfort zone, or don't know how to make the change happen, many people would rather live in an imperfect world than do something about it.

Most often, feelings of inadequacy are rooted in childhood experiences, like having had overly critical parents, cruel peers, shaming authority figures, or, perhaps, having not had opportunities to engage in positive, challenging experiences that help children gain feelings of competence and adequacy.

Atelophobia is an obsessive fear of imperfection. Someone with this condition is terrified of making mistakes. They tend to avoid any situation where they feel they won't succeed. Atelophobia can lead to anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.

1. A Lifelong Personality Flaw. If your partner has a personality flaw — like narcissism or a lack of empathy — it's likely not going to go away. "You will never change personality traits because by definition they are unchangeable," says licensed clinical psychologist Joshua Klapow, PhD.

You can't do a thing to change where you came from and the circumstances or situation you were born into, but you control where you're going.

If we describe rules, laws, or facts as immutable, we mean that they never change and cannot be changed. This is a formal word, but it is often used in a slightly joky or sarcastic way. More informally, we talk about hard-and-fast rules.